Stop Right There!
We do NOT say the F word around these parts!
A while back, one of my clients started freaking out right before we launched her website. She was so worried that she might fail in her new business, that she almost didn’t even start it! That would have been pretty sad – to let your dream go down the toilet before even putting it out into the world…all because of the fear of it not working out exactly as you had hoped and planned!
So, since I’m all about taking action, I didn’t just respond with the typical, “oh, come on!” or “you can’t think like that or else you WILL fail!”…I responded with a Pinterest board that I whipped up for her – full of quotes about failure. It was the best way I could try to convince her that her thoughts were powerful, and that if she felt she would fail, then she probably would…and if she had positive thoughts about her new business, then she had a much better chance at sweet success.
She launched her business, and it appears to be doing quite well. But, the bottom line is this: If you think you’ll fail – you very well might! If you think you’ll succeed – you will – in some way! If you think you can’t do something – you probably won’t even try to do it. If you think you can, then you’ll at least try. And when you try, you up your chances of success!
If we START with the can’ts, we will definitely lose out on the chance to experience the CAN! Please don’t lose out on this chance!
I hear it all the time in the yoga classes I teach (and especially from people who don’t even practice yoga). “I could never do that!” “Oh yeah, right – like I can do that!”
Well, if you think you can’t, you’re absolutely right – you can’t do that…and you won’t (because you haven’t even tried…or maybe you tried ONCE and it didn’t work). My typical response is, “What challenging thing can you learn – or master – in one try?” Can you master a language in one hour? Nope! Then don’t expect to master a challenging yoga pose in one hour (or, actually, in the 5 minutes we just spent on it).
I want to learn how to do some of the poses this amazing yogi does. I have never uttered the phase, “I could never to that!” I actually know that I CAN do SOME of the things he can do (not because I have his strength, because I certainly do NOT…yet!), but it is going to take a LOT of training and practice to make it happen. It’s really all about desire (and time, energy, passion, determination, etc.). I don’t expect to master even a quarter of the things he can do – but I AM going to at least try!
Enough preaching for one day! All I want you to do is reconsider your thought process when you feel that you can’t do something – especially when you have not even tried (or maybe only tried once or twice). Your words, thoughts and attitude can truly affect the outcome of your actions.
Is there something you haven’t tried or have talked yourself out of just because you THINK you MIGHT fail? Tell me about it in the comments below!