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But what if I fail?

40 Days of Blogging - Day 2

Stop Right There!

We do NOT say the F word around these parts!

A while back, one of my clients started freaking out right before we launched her website. She was so worried that she might fail in her new business, that she almost didn’t even start it! That would have been pretty sad – to let your dream go down the toilet before even putting it out into the world…all because of the fear of it not working out exactly as you had hoped and planned!

So, since I’m all about taking action, I didn’t just respond with the typical, “oh, come on!” or “you can’t think like that or else you WILL fail!”…I responded with a Pinterest board that I whipped up for her – full of quotes about failure. It was the best way I could try to convince her that her thoughts were powerful, and that if she felt she would fail, then she probably would…and if she had positive thoughts about her new business, then she had a much better chance at sweet success.

She launched her business, and it appears to be doing quite well. But, the bottom line is this: If you think you’ll fail – you very well might! If you think you’ll succeed – you will – in some way! If you think you can’t do something – you probably won’t even try to do it. If you think you can, then you’ll at least try. And when you try, you up your chances of success!

If we START with the can’ts, we will definitely lose out on the chance to experience the CAN! Please don’t lose out on this chance!

I hear it all the time in the yoga classes I teach (and especially from people who don’t even practice yoga). “I could never do that!” “Oh yeah, right – like I can do that!”

What if I fail?Well, if you think you can’t, you’re absolutely right – you can’t do that…and you won’t (because you haven’t even tried…or maybe you tried ONCE and it didn’t work). My typical response is, “What challenging thing can you learn – or master – in one try?” Can you master a language in one hour? Nope! Then don’t expect to master a challenging yoga pose in one hour (or, actually, in the 5 minutes we just spent on it).

I want to learn how to do some of the poses this amazing yogi does. I have never uttered the phase, “I could never to that!” I actually know that I CAN do SOME of the things he can do (not because I have his strength, because I certainly do NOT…yet!), but it is going to take a LOT of training and practice to make it happen. It’s really all about desire (and time, energy, passion, determination, etc.). I don’t expect to master even a quarter of the things he can do – but I AM going to at least try!

Enough preaching for one day! All I want you to do is reconsider your thought process when you feel that you can’t do something – especially when you have not even tried (or maybe only tried once or twice). Your words, thoughts and attitude can truly affect the outcome of your actions.

Is there something you haven’t tried or have talked yourself out of just because you THINK you MIGHT fail? Tell me about it in the comments below!

Until tomorrow,

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  • Missie March 11, 2015

    I have struggled with the F-word for quite some time. Mostly, I find myself thinking “I’m not good enough yet.” For instance, when strangers contact me for photo shoots, I always wonder if I can meet their expectations. And recently I have been struggling with promoting my photography/travel blog out to strangers (like on Reddit) from fear of criticism. You have giving me a lot to ponder! Wonderful post as usual!

    • Stefani Harris March 12, 2015

      Thank you, Missie! We all struggle with it – I promise! Especially in business – when someone is paying us for our services. We just have to know that we are going to do our best. That’s all we can do! But to not take on the client at all – just out of fear of worrying that we’re not good enough…that’s where we face the challenge :(. We just have to try and trust that we’ll nail it! 🙂

  • Katie March 11, 2015

    I love this post Stefani! That was so sweet of you to make a Pinterest board for your client. I am going to check it out right after this comment! I have felt the same way, but you just have to take a chance and believe in yourself. It is very true when you said “If you think you will fail, then you probably will” and that is why I have been practicing positive thinking for the last few years and it has gotten me this far and I’m going to keep on going, just like you. 🙂

    • Stefani Harris March 12, 2015

      Thank you, Katie! What is better than an inspiration board, right?? It’s ALL about positive thinking! Positive thinking = positive outcomes :).

  • Rebecca Gruenspan March 12, 2015

    Awesome reminder! I think the fear of failure is the one thing that holds us back the most in life. I know it does me…I’m stuck in it now! We balance it out with being responsible and sometimes That F word wins out. I’m sharing this with my adoption clients. It can pertain to anyone! Thank you.

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